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I figured out why I prefer to "just say no" to certain foods rather than kidding myself into thinking I can just have one and stop there.
Let's say I have one cupcake with icing and it's 178 calories. That's no big deal. I can have ONE. Mmmm, it's delicious. Too delicious. But the experience is over in something like 2 minutes if I eat slowly. It was so good. Now I want more. But I know I can't have more. Then I feel bad that I can't have more. Then I get mad that I can't have more. It seems unfair. I want to pout. Now I feel like I'm 4 years old having a tantrum because I can't have a cupcake!
And to me, this is why it's easier to just say no to the first cupcake, so that I don't find myself feeling helpless and like a 4 year old having a tantrum. I don't like telling myself "No" about anything. I don't like denying myself.
But then you might ask, how can I deny myself that first cupcake? Because it's easier to say no to the first one and save the 178 calories than to end up in tears and 178 calories fatter and feeling sad and deprived. Does that make sense?
I also console myself by reminding myself that I know myself, and I won't be happy with one. One is too many and the entire batch is not enough. So why start?
I envy people who can have one bite of cheesecake and say "Oh, that's too rich!" and put their fork down. I'm leaning over their plate saying, "What? Too rich? Let me try it!" Haha!
I guess it comes down to not wanting to have to police myself. It's easier to have a zero tolerance rule than a "just one and no more after that" rule. But as I am famous for saying, this only works for me, and I' think it's great if others can make moderation work for them. I can be moderate with things like alcohol because guess why? It's not my drug of choice. Food, however, is.
And there you have it.
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103.9 kg
Lost so far: 23.1 kg.
Still to go: 36.3 kg.
Diet followed: Reasonably Well.
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1122 kcal
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Fat: 43.49g | Prot: 80.07g | Carbs: 105.46g.
Breakfast: Pineapple. Lunch: Tomatoes, Ground Beef (85% Lean / 15% Fat), Cottage Cheese (Lowfat 2% Milkfat). Dinner: Publix Large Shrimp, Pad Thai. more...
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Losing 1.6 kg a Week
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Reminds me of Ruth's February 27th Journal. Dieters come in 2 types, Abstainers and Moderators. Like you, I am also an Abstainer. As a matter of fact, I tried Moderation again last night. Guess what? It still doesn't work.
03 Mar 14 by member: BuffyBear
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good, common sense attitude. the important thing about dealing with any kind of addiction is knowing yourself and how you react to your addiction. if you can have just one, great. if you can't stope once you get started then also great, as long as you know that before you start.
03 Mar 14 by member: timconard
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I totally agree! I am an addicted, obsessive, emotional eater unless I keep myself in check. I was on a similar program 20 years ago but then I let go and I cant ever again. This is my disease and I need to be vigilant. Excellent post, thank you!
03 Mar 14 by member: Kris AZ
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Exactly my feelings on the subject MRSMOLE & I*couldn't* have said it better myself! :D I really enjoy reading your posts.
03 Mar 14 by member: myawethinTICself
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This post was inspired by Ruhu's Feb 27th Journal entry. Her entry made me ponder just why I abstain, and that's what I wanted to examine. It was fun to realize that I say no because I don't like feeling 4 years old. Hah.
03 Mar 14 by member: mrsmole
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WOW this is exactly how I feel.. I could not have summed up my feelings better.. thanks for sharing :)
03 Mar 14 by member: thick_fit_foxx
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Thank you for revisiting this subject. Makes me feel so not alone. I can only put up with so much of this "All things in moderation" baloney!
03 Mar 14 by member: BuffyBear
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That was me yesterday with a chocolate chip cookie :/
03 Mar 14 by member: Leoart
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I agree, well said! I find it hard to not eat an entire pizza, my solution to this is a personal sized pizza. Once its gone, its gone. I do have a hard time with cookies cakes etc and I agree, easier to just say no straight out of the gate..
03 Mar 14 by member: Annabelle3117
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I know what your saying, I have to watch my blood sugars so they say you can eat 1/3 of a small apple. It really is not worth it, I would rather eat something that has some significance to it and I am actually satisfied when I am done eating
03 Mar 14 by member: rdzins
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So much easier to say no and avoid further munchies! It does get easier. I will say that I really don't crave sweets any more. I used to love cakes, cookies, candy... I spent a lot of time avoiding b/c I knew I could not stop at one. Had a few binges along the way, but now I look at the stuff and think it looks good, but dont' really want it. I am suprised the cravings have really gone away - and I'm not a low carber. I think that once you eat it, it releases those endorphines and make you want more - so keep that in mind next time!! :)
03 Mar 14 by member: NCNOLE
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I just wrote an entry on how the only way I have been able to work so hard so far is due to my overwhelming guilt after eating things I shouldnt. If I really want a cupcake, Ill eat it. And sure, itll taste just great, but afterwards, when I think about it, I get incredibly guilty. That guilt makes it so that next time I want a cupcake, I really have to think about if it is REALLY worth the extreme guilt I will feel, and chances are, I'll decide its not worth it.
People ask me all the time if I want "just a bite," "one french fry," "one cheat day." No, I do not want one. Because if I allow myself to get comfortable eating "just one" it then will turn into two, three, four, and next thing you know, I'm eating a full McDonalds meal, milkshake included. I've worked too hard to give in to it now. So I understand exactly what you mean!
Keep up the awesome work!
03 Mar 14 by member: xohhjeez
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I've been hearing lately on the news and talk shows how much sugar is addictive - even more so than cocaine. Also that sugar is worse than fat. And also about how much sugar has been added to our prepared foods, i.e. Campbell's tomato soup - one of my favourite comfort foods. Who knew???
I think I will be turning into an abstainer as well.
03 Mar 14 by member: Lynn1958
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I am so right with you. I cannot every have the taste or it snowballs into the pan of cup cakes... or beating myself up... or thinking about... I mean dreaming about them. UGH! Better to just stay away!
03 Mar 14 by member: SuperMom69
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I was that way as well; until I learnt that by doing that, changes are higher that I am going to cheat eventually. Instead of cheating, I prefer to do it on the official and correct way, and just be clear to myself that I am allowing a bit but that's it. Works better for me to eat a bit of something I love, than not eating it at all.
03 Mar 14 by member: Chickturu
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I do not have a addiction in any way at all but I do have a hatred for wasting food.
Now if a packet of chocolate biscuits is opened we all know that if left they will become soft and therefore can not be eaten, food waste so to prevent this waste I help out and eat them.
If I see a plate of chocolate chip cup cakes and nobody eating them, food waste so I help out and eat them.
If I see a bar of chocolate open and sitting there with nobody in attendance then I know it will eventually melt so to prevent the waste, I eat it.
All this just proves what a good person I am in preventing food being thrown out and has nothing to do with a lack of will power. lol
03 Mar 14 by member: Bwy39
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LOL! I'm so there. I have been eating the same dessert as someone else and I've inhaled it, meanwhile they barely even pick at it because it's too rich, or too sweet, or too chocolatey. Meanwhile I'm trying to think of a way to lick my plate clean without anyone noticing. I'm better off just saying no than even starting in the first place.
03 Mar 14 by member: mars2kids
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oh yes I feel the same way so I am boycotting fast food restaurants cuz if I go I will something that isn't good for me
03 Mar 14 by member: cyd69
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So glad I'm in good company. Interesting that we all have our own reasons. Bwy cannot stand the waste, Xo has the guilt, and many of us just can't or don't want to stop. Thank you all for sharing your struggles with me.
03 Mar 14 by member: mrsmole
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Making smart choices are so important....I've never struggled with weight, but everyday we all struggle with "right" choices....CONGRATS, take control of everything in your life!
03 Mar 14 by member: nycblondee
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