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About 4:00 this morning, I heard someone calling for help. I opened my door and asked if anyone needed help and a young woman replied "yes." I asked if she wanted me to call 911 and she said "yes" so I did. A little later, she knocked on my door and said the police never came, so I called again. A classic case of abuse, he beat her, took her phone all their money and left in her car. She didn't know anyone's phone number, except the shop her sister owns, so we had to wait for it to open. Meanwhile the police finally arrived and talked to her (she kept going back and forth from her apartment across the way to mine), but she said they weren't very interested. Finally got in touch with her mother, and she (as well as me) encouraged her to go home (she's 43, told me she drinks and I think does drugs). I told her she needs to report her car as stolen (she has the title) but I doubt that she will. I told her I'd take her to the bus station, sent her back to get some sleep and I got some too. I used to work for a Crisis Hotline, this is an old, familiar story. It doesn't usually end well, unfortunately. Perhaps this time it will.
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04 Jul 23 by member: recompforhealth
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Drama! And right when you're trying to recuperate.
04 Jul 23 by member: erikahollister
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your very brave Shirfleur1
04 Jul 23 by member: buenitabishop
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Good of you to try to help Shirfleur! It's risky opening your door to strangers as it's a common ruse to get good hearted people to open the door to bad actors by claiming that they need assistance. Glad you had nothing truly bad happen. Just be careful if they are neighbors, as the abuser could possibly single out anyone who helps the abusee just for kicks and giggles.
04 Jul 23 by member: debrafrederick
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Of all people, I know you know what you are doing. I hope the outcome is better than often is the case. Being stuck in that cycle is horrid... and often endless.
04 Jul 23 by member: melissatwa
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Debra, I'm well aware of the risks I'm taking, and of the danger. But I cannot turn my back on someone in need if she wants to get out of this situation.
04 Jul 23 by member: shirfleur 1
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I understand that Shirfleur! I have inserted myself into several abusive/abusee situations. The need to try to help them is almost overpowering. The ones I helped all ended up going right back to him. LOL! in the very town you live in seems part of the lifestyle for many Texans. Just voicing my concern!
04 Jul 23 by member: debrafrederick
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Oh this is so sad! Im guessing she will go back to her situation but it's wonderful that you tried to help her! ❤️❤️❤️
04 Jul 23 by member: Diana 1234
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This is a very weird story. Back in February I had this same situation occur the day before I was leaving for my vacation. I thought it was a unique situation bc I had moved to a city 4 years ago. I’m a country girl, and could not turn my back on this young lady. I couldn’t have done anything less. But in view of the latest news stories, I don’t know what I’d do now.
04 Jul 23 by member: Sarah1950
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Oh Shir, your heart is big and I know you have experience in this field however, you did not know who or what you were opening the door to that hour in the morning and being that you live alone, it could have turned very bad. Me, in a situation like that without opening the door, perhaps I would call 911 and tell them to come check that there’s someone outside my door. Not criticizing you, I commend your kind heart but just saying be careful. ❤️🙏🏻
04 Jul 23 by member: wifey9707
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Oh my Shirfleur❤️ 🤗🤗🤗
What an ordeal!!!! You were probably the only one that opened their door for her. Even though you worked in for the Crisis Helpline, doesn’t mean you can solve her problem.
Think about it if she does drugs she could’ve been high, out of her mind and murdered you! Then you’d be on my ID channel!😞
One thing my brother taught me was if someone needs help, YOU HELP THEM!!! But in this day and age it’s very scary to do so. Look how long it took for the cops to get there, and they weren’t even concerned!!!
Plus, and as you say, she’s gonna go back to him, that too is on all my ID shows. I’m so glad I didn’t have a daughter, I’d be so worried!😳
Love ya Shirfleur, you come first, need you to make me laugh each day!!!❤️❤️❤️
04 Jul 23 by member: Shrewdness
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Okay, first of all, I had already called 911, before she came to my door. They had my name and address and they had her apartment number, so they could have IDed her easily. Secondly, I was still on the phone with 911 when she came to the door, so if she had done anything I had them on the phone, right then and there. He had already left in her car, so he was nowhere around. He had taken her phone, so she had no way to call anyone.
I've been talking to her and so has her mother. I told her I would help her leave, but if she takes him back I'm done with all of it. She has reported her car as stolen, so the police are looking for him now. He came by and left her phone with a neighbor, but did not try to see her. And yes, I know that most women go back to abusive men, I've helped many of them get away only to find out they went back. But, if she's willing to leave, I'm going to help her in spite of the danger to me. Because I have to.
04 Jul 23 by member: shirfleur 1
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💛 I hope she chooses wisely. So kind of you to try to help, shirfleur.
04 Jul 23 by member: moko 13
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TJV1959, I know you and I'm so glad to see you here. I've been worried about you. And, yes, I know you understand, because, I know you took a chance on someone not so long ago. 💜💛💚
04 Jul 23 by member: shirfleur 1
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This happens over and over. The abused often has nowhere else to go and keeps going back to the abuser. It’s a miserable circle of life. Unless the abused isn’t truly ready to leave the abuser there’s no way of getting them out of that situation.
04 Jul 23 by member: LadyBuxxx
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Wow you're brave Shir! I'd have been afraid she was trying to scam you or up to no good. I'm glad you were able to help somewhat. Hope you can get some rest tonight. But it's the 4th! Did you take a nap? You've had too much excitement lately! Happy 4th of July!
04 Jul 23 by member: bearnoggin
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I would be afraid to get involved in this situation. Glad you have the skills, experience, and judgment to handle this safely and give some help to someone in need.
04 Jul 23 by member: GoalOnederLand
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05 Jul 23 by member: wifey9707
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Cheesegobbler, I'm so glad to hear that you are one of the courageous ones. It isn't easy, but you did it, and I'm hoping she will too. Her mother is coming to get her Friday, if only she can hold out until then.
05 Jul 23 by member: shirfleur 1
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never open the door for no one
05 Jul 23 by member: mountainman2
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