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We had snow last night. Two inches of snow but it should melt by Tuesday so I can still get out there and rake the leaves! I am thinking I'll weigh in more often now - not really being good about eating lately so I have to jolt myself!
Finding that my daughter is draining me. She just won't step up and do what she used to do before our separation from her dad. I think the fact that he is not around means she only gets nagged half as much as she used to - but I find myself with lots of time so that will have to change. My house is just messy now, with her stuff all over - in every room, there are dirty dishes and her clothing and papers. I can only do so much before I want to scream! We moved her to a new bedroom - this means she thinks she has TWO rooms to dump her stuff!!!
I keep trying to tell her that she needs to get her mind around what college will be like, but I realize that is too much for her, without some serious retraining by me.
Ok: I am grateful that I have this space to get my mind around healthy living. 2 - My daughters are both smart and beautiful talented girls. 3 - My health is close to great - so, far, my troubles (overweight and out of shape!) are 99% in my control. 4 - My family loves me and supports me. 5 - I like living where I am, even though it needs a lot of work (both my house and my neighborhood/town/community).
Hope all of you are having a great day!
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I am with you on the late yard clean up! :) I can relate to how hard it is with your daughter. I have a son who kind of went backward a bit when I divorced. It is hard to be tougher on them but they come around. My son learned the hard way not to push mom too far! LOL We took all the dirty laundry and shoved it in a bag down in the basement. Then he had nothing to wear! He learned fast to bring his laundry down to the washer...same with other stuff being all over the place...I told him if I found it laying around there was no telling what might become of it because if it looked like trash to me it would be going into the garbage...I am the meanest mother in the world! ;)
06 Dec 09 by member: dawn0001
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I sure can relate to that. My husband left when my kids were 2 months and 10 months. They are only 8 months apart and my son is a good kid but he is a slob. He leaves everything everywhere no matter what I do. I get sick of complaining about it and he just says yea and doesn't do anything. I just pick it up now and throw it in his room..no matter what it is. I don't do his laundry anymore either.
06 Dec 09 by member: chattycathy1955
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My brother is definitely draining my Mom right now as well, so I can understand how you must be feeling. I do have to tell you that with mothers and daughters, the natural friction they seem to have really builds in those teenage years. I know most of my sisters and I went through that with our mom as well. The good thing is, it does get better with time. Moms and daughters really turn out to have the closest relationships AFTER those awful rebellious years. So, remember, "This too shall pass."
06 Dec 09 by member: twilightmom
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Your entry reminds me of a number 6 today that I am grateful for ... my children are grown adults and no longer live at home!! LOL!!! Those years you are currently in were certainly challenging!! Hang in there Abba ... like twilight said ... this too shall pass. Oh and I love how you are able to pull out the positives and remind yourself of them. That is so awesome when you are feeling so frustrated!!
06 Dec 09 by member: madaboutmoose
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Your interaction with your daughter is parallel to my interaction with my son. They are both great kids - huh. Who was it who said, "Youth! Wasted on the young!" I see you making such progress inch by inch - step by step - revovation by renovation. Odd how others see us improving but our own tiny baby steps toward a much improved life seem imperceptible sometimes! I think it is great that you acknowledge the steps you are taking to feel great. Also - as for community - I relate to that topic too! Looking around at my old town makes me sad too. There are so many old neighborhoods where our parents' generation's folks have died off. Robber baron landlords have bought up properties and do not keep these properties up as nicely as the World War II generations citizens did! So sad! Thanks for making me think!
06 Dec 09 by member: poet-in-motion
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