mysize10's Journal, 22 Jan 21

always plenty of advice out there. LOL. I usually tell people as little as I can...as I do not want to discuss my eating with them... 

Exactly what liv and Erg said. There are people who will do that no matter what the issue is. I don't think she really understands what "you do you" means. Continuing with your success is all that matters. 💕👍 

Yes you are right. There are many things said about this weight loss thingy. But at the end of the day it still will be finding what works for you, That thing that you know you will be able to stay with for the long term. So with that said. Hang in there and keep it moving. At least that is what I'm thinking lol. Stay safe. 

Yeah, I disagree with your friend. You need a plan, for sure! When she's giving that advice, I guess it would be rude to cover your ears and say "la la la la". 🙉 

Lonnie, hahaha! 😆  

Just doing me got me to almost 300 lbs....I'm much better with a plan. I don't talk about it at all with anyone unless they ask. 

similar story 

We all have different stories and who is anyone to tell you what your story is or should be? You do what works for you! 💜💜💜 

for some people it doesn't take all that for others it does. if what your doing is working for your goals then keep at it  

Just make it a healthy journey that you can sustain into Mai tenancy and you will do fine. 

👋mysize10...liv, Erq, n the others hv it right...plenty of advice, even here on FS. U can look for journeys that r consistent, mindful, successful, etc. to help u along ur own journey to success😊 

I'm getting the same thing here. your right about sharing with only those that are supportive. at least in my opinion. I don't believe it's ever wrong to guard our hearts from negativity. just heard a great teaching on that where even jesus kicked the scoffers out of the room when he raised the girl from the dead. I did the same last week. somehow got into a convo with a disgruntled man who offered his thoughts and dumped all over my hopes and dreams. it's. a challenge when you hate to see people hurt. but here's a thought that helped me. 25% of people won't like me or agree with me for no fault of my own. not sure if that's accurate but it helped me a ton. blessings to you.  

Sometimes appearing to be supportive can be unintended sabotage. ❤️ 

If it were so easy no one would be overweight and weight loss would not be a multimillion dollar industry. My wife says some of her "friends" offer her that same type of "support." Mostly it comes from one of her overweight friends that asks her out for some girl talk over a cup of coffee. After finding out, what this really means is that it is a trip to the Cheesecake Factory or the Mile High Apple Pie Bakery for coffee she turns her down most of the time - so what does this friend do - she brings goodies over to have coffee with her. It makes you wonder, doesn't it? I tell my wife, a thoroughbred runs its own race. It doesn't follow the others in the pack, Just stick to your plan and let her do her thing. If she wants to kill herself with food that is going to make her diabetes worse, she knows what she is doing and she is the one buying the food and putting it in her mouth, not you.  

us just doing us, is what brought us all here in the first place. sorry she's not the support you wish she was, bit you're right, just don't try to share you journey with her 

I think I have mentioned before that my world is peppered with people who are over weight, obese, type 2 diabetics. I love and care about these people a lot and have offered my mostly unsolicited and unheeded advice many times over the years. And, I have watched most of them develop severe medical issues related to obesity and diabetes,— heart attack, strokes, amputations, poverty from trying to afford their multiple medications. I have a relatively new friend who lost lots of weight years ago following gastric bypass and has done well but gained massive weight since the pandemic. She is 50 and suffered a heart attack this weekend and went for a bypass. I used a different approach with her— I said nothing and used the “you do you” method. So the outcome has been the same pretty much. At least with the first group I tried and they still decided to “just do you”. But this last gal I can only wonder if a little more persistent caring approach would have helped.  

I think I have mentioned before that my world is peppered with people who are over weight, obese, type 2 diabetics. I love and care about these people a lot and have offered my mostly unsolicited and unheeded advice many times over the years. And, I have watched most of them develop severe medical issues related to obesity and diabetes,— heart attack, strokes, amputations, poverty from trying to afford their multiple medications. I have a relatively new friend who lost lots of weight years ago following gastric bypass and has done well but gained massive weight since the pandemic. She is 50 and suffered a heart attack this weekend and went for a bypass. I used a different approach with her— I said nothing and used the “you do you” method. So the outcome has been the same pretty much. At least with the first group I tried and they still decided to “just do you”. But this last gal I can only wonder if a little more persistent caring approach would have helped.  

Opinions are like a-holes... everyone’s got one and it’s usually full of 💩. Stay positive! 

My partner is like this. He says eat what you want but walk umm no I didn’t get to 273 now and I was walking. So I don’t listen to anyone else any more. 

Ya know, there was a time when it was considered rude to discuss personal medical issues, and yes, dieting is very much a personal issue. It puts you in a defensive corner and the well intended friend as the aggressor. So, change the subject or change the “friend”. It’s tough but don’t be a victim. ❤️❤️❤️