Harapeko Keichan's Journal, 18 Aug 22

8/18
W: 44.0kg, F: 16.2%, M: 35.0kg

Can you go to the restaurant alone?
I can.
Not only the restaurant, but also I can go to the concert alone.

My friend can’t.
So I had lunch with her at the vegetarian restaurant yesterday.
Whenever she goes to the Japanese grocery store, she wanted to go there in the same mall.

I asked why she can’t.
Her answered several reason.
1) The price is way high for the lunch comparing with the price for the lunch in Japan.(She came here last year. Average price for the lunch is about $7.00 in Japan now. Here in Los Angeles, average is around $15.00 I think)

2) She doesn’t want to “occupied” the table for only ONE person. She thinks if she wasn’t use the table, the table is available at least for TWO customers. So she doesn’t want to make a trouble for the restaurant.

3) She feels guilty eating her lunch out without her husband.

I told her even the twice as much, occupying the table and without her husband it deserves for her having lunch with friends to have a joy time.

Most Japanese people are holding their feel all the times. That’s why they have so much stress. It is the most problem in Japan….
44 kg Lost so far: 1.4 kg.    Still to go: 0 kg.    Diet followed: Reasonably Well.
Gaining 1.4 kg a Week

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HK, I too am comfortable going to a restaurant, concert, movie, play and even vacation alone. My favorite is going to a museum or botanical garden by myself. I love my family and friends but need my alone time to regenerate…typical functioning introvert 😂 
18 Aug 22 by member: karen40.poole
I am planning on going to a restaurant by myself. I used to go to the movies myself didn’t want to be bothered while watching the movie 
18 Aug 22 by member: PinayRN
I used to eat alone all the time when on travel. I'm fine with it as I'm an avid people watcher. I will also randomly talk to people if I'm in the mood (meaning not busy doing other things). teach her about the great artists that used to spend hours observing people for inspiration. just because you aren't with another person doesn't mean you're not worth the two seats at a table. teach her about off hours when it's good to have a person there vs. empty. and if she becomes a regular anywhere, she'll be able to see that she has worth as an individual. 
18 Aug 22 by member: Katsolo
Your friend can learn from you— wonderful that you are there to encourage her. I thing that is a not uncommon problem here as well. 
18 Aug 22 by member: Kenna Morton
Dear members, thank you very much for your valuable opinions. I learned that people from any country can do it alone, or they can't do it alone. In my case, I have a strong desire to eat, go, and see things as soon as possible. Therefore, if I listen to my friend's availability and then act, I will lose the passion of the rising mood and miss the opportunity. If I miss it, I will regret why I didn't act alone. I am an extrovert and I am also very curious (like George 🐒). Fortunately, it is also a proof that I was able to come to America alone. 😝 
19 Aug 22 by member: Harapeko Keichan
I do the same thing with plays— I see an advert for something that is playing soon and I just grab a ticket and go. Same thing, don’t have to make adjustments for when others are available.  
19 Aug 22 by member: Kenna Morton
I hope your friend does learn from you. Change is difficult for many. 
19 Aug 22 by member: TomLong

     
 

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