Sharons Victory's Journal, 02 Jun 19

You can do it, be strong 

It’s going to be fine 💕 You got this! I think a great way to get back on track is to find out why you ended here. Was it because you just missed drinking and eating? If so maybe try incorporating a few of the foods you miss into your diet, or is the reason a more personal/serious reason or maybe there’s no reason and you just don’t know. I believe in you and I am sure many others on here believe in you as well. It’s a lifestyle and the journey to your goal should show a few mishaps along the way that is how you learn and also provides reassurance to others just starting that it’s ok to loose and gain it’s just a matter of getting back on track.  

I want to hug you, but not sure if it helps. You are actually the only person who can get get control over it... We can say whatever we want but it's you the master of your plate, bottle & soul. We still are here to listen tho. Maybe you can see someone irl to get active help? Be strong! 

Not good Sharon. I’m not going to tell you it is fine. I’m brutally honest. You are going to keep gaining if this continues. And it’s continuing. I don’t know why you are doing this. You say you don’t know either, but you are the only one who can stop it and if not, you are going to regret this more than ever. And gain all your weight back. I wish you well but many of us have tried to help but you won’t listen. You keep doing the same things. I have no help only to tell you to get physical concrete help, fs is not going to solve this one. This is beyond any of us with a deep rooted issue none of us can tackle only you. You can, but it’s your choice. ❤️ 

I agree with Wifey. You seem to have a very unhealthy relationship with food and your motivation for wanting to lose weight. 

You can't stop now, you have come too far to fail. This is only a setback that serves to remind us of the long term changes we have to make. I believe you will find success because one right decision leads on another. Today you are pondering the first of many. . . 

Tis the season! Everyone wants a beach body but now with the holidays it is really easy to get side tracked. Vacations and weekend road trips make meal planning more difficult sometimes. My weakness this time of year is motorcycle rallies. So hard to stay on track just because of the availability of what I need. What keeps me going is that I remember I didn't get to 350lbs overnight or even over a weekend or a month. That evil scale may be mocking you right now but you CAN get back on track with ONE DECISION TO DO SO! Decide that this feeling is not the one that you want and make the decision to do what you know is right. You've done it before so you know it's in you! Do not make the mistake of thinking you failed and let it all go to shit. That's not you. You are the person who did it and did it successfully! You are the one who hit those goals. You are the one who can do it again! Just get back on the horse and do NOT let this minor setback redefine your journey! You got this!  

Hey Girl! get yourself back on track.. You have too before it gets too bad.. Remember how good you felt and how the clothes fit you.. You're a very pretty girl and look to be such a fun and bubbly person. I really want to see you succeed because you totally deserve it!!!! 

Today is a fresh day for you! Move forward to hit your daily goal today. Celebrate tonight that you can do this! 

Yesterday doesn't matter. Today is what counts.  

Humility works for me :) In reality I "don't got this". I am only 'blessed' with what we have right now (which is a lot). I can forgive myself for being 'human' and not having to ability to 'control'. This, for me is 'surrender' and requires 'humility'. This week I wont be eating solid food because when I try to 'control' it, and 'not binge' it doesn't seem to work. I will also not drink alcohol. This, for me is 'surrender' and requires 'humility'. Good luck! 

Even if you just take a break and maintain for a bit, that is still a win! I did that (unintentionally) over the holidays (Halloween through Memorial day) because I just wasn't in the right mindset. After my 15 mile walk yesterday, I'm reclaiming control, but it's important to work with your whole self. Acknowledge your faults and failures, especially if it's a pattern, then imagine that these are the faults and flaws of someone you love and treasure. You wouldn't berate them, you wouldn't bully them. You would be gentle and kind. You would point out that they can use their flaws to their advantage. I finally figured out that this what people mean when they say you have to be your own best friend. For me it's a bit deeper, and I need to be my own parent and give the petulant toddler & rebellious teenager of my inner self all the patience and love I deserve.  

This sounds like the roller coaster I was on while I was drinking. Go on binge, feel terrible after, promise myself I would not drink again. Then start feeling better, then binge drink and the cycle starts again. You sound the same, only thing is you include binge-eating with your drinking. I am a recovering alcoholic. 

Sharon, forget about yesterday, forget about the weekend. Get your head into TODAY! Yes, DO go to the gym! DO get back on track. We've both got some RE-losing to do, and we need to get serious about doing it! It seems like the drinking is playing a key role in your sabotage. Quit rebelling against yourself to "fit in" with your friends. WE'RE your friends, too!  

It's so hard when your friends and family can eat all kinds of wonderful food, and lots of it. It probably even feels like its isolating because diets/lifestyle changes takes control, which makes you not want to go due to the temptation. I eat the same foods when I go out, but much less quantities. I also eat slower to make it look like it just as much as everyone else's dish. You're human this will happen, but you are also strong so don't give up. 

I can relate those drinks get the best of us sometimes! But today is Monday we got this I’m in your same boat really pushing discipline This week! You got it girl 💪🏾 

Hold onto this feeling, despair can be a great motivator. Like a few posters above, I surrendered to alcohol because I could not control my intake and it lead to poor consequences in my relationships and health. However, I could not do it alone and I did not attempt it when I was dieting years ago. I had to suffer for a few more years before I was able to reach that jumping off point. What I did do was I ‘prepped’ on FS for how much alcohol I KNEW I would drink that day. Let’s say I was going to drink 4 miller lite 16 oz cans & watch the game. Well the first thing I would do is add those to my snacks before I started my day. What was left over in kcals was what I had to work w as far as food was concerned. Perhaps 30 minutes of walking, etc was in order to allow an extra beer. I might even sit at the table and watch to burn extra calories. Looking back now I can see how alcoholic and unhealthy that was but I DID LOSE WEIGHT WHILE ALSO ALLOWING ME TO DRINK. It can be done but you will have to be steadfast in the rest of your diet. That was a choice for me, an alcoholic, that was easy to make. That would be my suggestion to you. If you know your going to drink plan ahead. The weight loss will lead to an improvement in self esteem which could lead to an examination of why you use alcohol and food in the manner you do down the road. That’s just my $0.02. Good luck to you 

You are in a scary place. I am too. If I keep rationalizing I will not record “all” that I’m eating. If I get off track too far I just give up and overeat the rest of the day. You are not alone in the struggle. Today I am working hard not to self sabotage. Praying you will do the same. We have worked too hard to quit. 

Surprised everybody seems to have given up on me so easily...no worries. I made it this far because i believe in myself more than anybody. 

I don’t see people giving up on you. Many of us have had experience close to yours.