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Yesterday I posted to Charlie63 and I said totally the wrong thing. Those of you who know me know that I can be a jerk sometimes - I hit "send" before I think about what I just wrote. Sometimes my mistakes cause pain and frustration that can not be apologized away, but I do apologize for what I said yesterday that has now driven Charlie63 away. I promise to proofread and edit from now on. I hope Charlie63 can forgive me and find a way to connect to the kinds of support that are on Fatsecret.
I feel terrible, and I know that I wrote my reaction for several reasons: out of my own confusion about why I am on this plateau I am on, out of frustration over my maybe-impending divorce, and out of the realization that 50 pounds is a lot of weight to lose, especially since I am losing 1 pound a month - and the bottom line of being thoughtless a lot of the time. Trust me, I do a lot of editing, and I still come off pretty obnoxious.
I am sorry about upsetting people - I feel pretty sensitive these days myself so I should know better.
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903 kcal
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Fat: 13.36g | Prot: 39.36g | Carbs: 174.10g.
Breakfast: raisins, corn, kashi go lean crunch, Black Beans (Mature Seeds, with Salt, Cooked, Boiled), blueberries. Lunch: multigrain english muffin, fat free cheddar cheese Cabot, broccoli. more...
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I am sorry to hear you are going through such a rough time. It is difficult to censor ourselves at times but it is good you recognized this and apologized. I hope you are feeling better soon and that the stressors in your days are alleviated. {{{{hugs}}}}}}
21 Aug 09 by member: dawn0001
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Honey, if I could give you a hug right now, I would. Its a shame that you took your anger out on someone here that didn't deserve it, but its over and done with now - all you can do is your say sorry, and hope they accept it. To address some of the things you said on here..... #1 - You have 50lbs to lose, and your only losing 1 lbs a week. According to WW, you are only supposed to lose .5 lbs a week - you are doubling that! Plus, whats the alternative - getting fatter?? Would that make you happy? No, ofcourse not, so just suck it up, and do what ya gotta do. #2 - Your marraige. I wish I could help you more with that. I've PMed you, we've chatted, and I've said all I can. Telling someone what you would do in their position isn't a quick fix - and truthfully, I don't know whats going on 100%. I will always be here for support, you know. I just hope you get the help you need, and get yourself in the situation you need (and your children need) to be in. And hey - its FRIDAY!
21 Aug 09 by member: MomofTwoGirls
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Hey Abbadabba!!! Your post today made me smile because once you posted a quick response to me ... and you so quickly deleted it and explained yourself that I just couldn't hold onto my "offendedness" ... LOL!!! We are all human. I appreciate how willing you are to be transparent with your humanity. And, it is so easy to offend and not intend to offend. I'm sure I've done it as well. You are under a lot of stress lately. I just want you to know that I still faithfully read your journal entries and enjoy seeing your responses to mine. Take care!! I hope there is a shift in your world soon ... for the better!!! Difficult times are ... well DIFFICULT!! UGH.
21 Aug 09 by member: madaboutmoose
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thank you, buddies. And MomofTwoGirls: I don't know what's going on here either - with DH, who knows? and with weight loss: I am losing 1 pound per MONTH - But you are right it is going down! But, yes, it's Friday!
Thank you also Madaboutmoose - I feel like a whiner when I see what others have accomplished especially you and MomofTwoGirls!
21 Aug 09 by member: abbadabba
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Number 1 - You are a good person - one of my favorite buddies! Number 2 - Every thing we write can be misread here in Fat Secret Land. Number 3 - We have all experienced miscommunications. These mishaps are part of the process. Number 4 - Stay with us. Don't let one bad experience frighten you away - okay? Number 5 - We love ya - Girl!
21 Aug 09 by member: poet-in-motion
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Abba ... listen ... when it is ready to "happen" it happens. You are not whining ... you are journeying!! I know it is difficult not to "compare" but try not to. Most, if not all of us, have struggled with "no progress" or "unbelievably slow progress" at times. You just haven't found your "groove" yet ... and you have been under A LOT of stress ... and well ... your body hasn't decided to cooperate yet!! Take care of you ... you are more than your weight.
21 Aug 09 by member: madaboutmoose
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Abba: On Charlie's behalf, I accept your apology. ;-)
21 Aug 09 by member: information
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