DAZEY_iz_Well's Journal, 13 Jul 22

tell your 9 yr old if it isn't good enough to make it himself, not much you can do about the 3 year old though. keep your head up mama, it gets better. my boys are 12 and 16, they still aggravate each other sometimes but it's calmed down quite a bit. 

Kids are tough. I have a sarcastic teenager that i homeschool and a 5yr old who goes by the nicknames Chaos and Velcro. Hubs also works from home and the kids have to be some what quiet while he's on work calls. My day feels like I'm taming crocodiles half the time. And someone is always hungry or can't find something. -__- We all have those hard days and eventually the good days come. I always tell myself, it won't last long and to enjoy them being young and little because it does go by fast. Hang in there!! 

Thanks everyone! Like taming crocodiles!! Yes thats so good! I hope they became calm teenagers, my 9yo has a devil-may-care temperament so i dont have much hope there.. O.O 

I grew up in a household of 4 kids. My mom got all of us to love books and taught us to read long before kindergarten. We were allowed to be in the house only if we were reading or playing Legos, cards or a board game. For all other activities, we were ordered to "Go play in traffic." 😉 Still, bike riding, jumping rope and shooting hoops in the driveway, playing on the backyard swing set, digging holes in the backyard, building forts, etc. was daily activity that tired us out. Also, our diet did not include sugar (other than fresh fruit) nor caffeine. Snacks were usually things like grapes or bananas, not things in cellophane wrappers or boxes. Just try different things out till you find a routine for each boy. And yoga for you!💚 

hang in there. my kids are in their 40s now, but I still remember the chaos of raising an ADHD child. herding cats is a great analogy! things will get better.  

I raised two ADHD kids. Remember two things: children thrive in routine and predictability and summer makes this really hard, but set a routine to the day that rewards their cooperation and meeting goals. Secondly you are the parent. You can put a stop to their nagging and criticism. Hang in there! 

at 9 daddy had me working in the yard with him all day. never had time to give momma a fit after a day with him you ate showered and passed out. 

Put them to work! Let them help you carry the laundry. Retrieve from dryer, fold. Let the 9 year old cook with you— seriously. The youngest can set the table. They may need to spend time with you. They can do chores and earn your praise and recognition . Give it a try if you haven’t already. Routine is really key, as others have said— learning responsibilities is also really important. Best of luck to you. Doesn’t it make you wonder sometimes why people keep having kids. Heheheh. But this is a serious question. 

Girl, vibes to you. I'm no help bc I don't have kids, but I've been a cocktail server and the full moon thing is REAL. Hang in there, sister.  

jengetfit123- same for my hubby at his job full moon- crazy inmates. Kenna Morton- yes I'm i agree, im a stay at home mom, our routine is solid, he has weekly and daily chores, he doesnt always wanna cooperate and if he doesnt get his way he will stay in a negative mood the rest of the day. mountainman2- dad works at a 12 hr shifts at a state prison, there and back is 2 hrs total for commute. He helps dad ,too, with the garden and yard, around the house projects sometimes and in the garage. Im alone, scrambling when hes gone. My son has PTSD, so its work trying to figure out his moods and what helps and doesnt work. He hasnt opened up so its hard to figure out RevNan55-PTSD will mimic ADHD symptoms, so his original diagnosis was ADHD when he was 5... The medication did NOTHING after a few days, so a diff doc was able to identify the correct diagnosis. Thanks everyone for your input!! When times are rough, sometimes im able to handle everything with a smile, but having Complex PTSD (24 out of 29 years spent in abuse), sometimes its hard to take on their demands without breaking down.. dad said if i need him home its an option but missing hours on his paycheck arent an option. I dont have friends, since we moved 400 miles from everyone we know. This reinforces how parenting comes with its own challenges...but ive had a chance to recalibrate as theyve been playing outside, now its lunch time!  

I thought this forum was for managing weight and eating healthy??🤷🏻‍♀️ 

MrsOtt - This is a community of great advice and help. Her diet and choice of food is of no concern to you. I see food on here all day that I would never eat. I do what adults do and I scroll by. Dazey - As a stay at home dad for a few years now that has dealt with depression and ptsd. I say take each moment... by moment. Each day by day it seems you have a lot on your plate. All we can do is provide for our families and love them. No one on this app or earth is perfect! Keep doing the best you can! 

There's nothing wrong with having things on here other than food! LIFE doesn't solely revolve around food 24/7! This place is more than just logging food/calories! 

MrsOtt- i didnt know it had to be just physical health and physical health only...sorry im having a rough day and my post peeves you... Thanks for your understanding...👀 Better then i used to be- thanks for backing me up. I totally get what your saying. Im 2 years into healing unresolved trauma, i fear a long way to go.  

No worries feel free to post what you like. I'd say this as a word of advice. You can't unfortunately block anyone yet. But you can delete comments if you so choose. Hopefully things get better for you! 

Dazey2112, Being a parent can be hard. I know and my heart goes out to you. We love them and do the very best we can. Remember, they don't come with instructions!!! As for anyone jumping onto your page and being judgmental or bossy or anything disagreeable, don't take it personally. Delete them and go on with your day. Reminder: Our days and what we have to deal with affect our food choices and our health. This is a health site with some very kind people. Better Than I Use To Be is right and a good friend to have. Post what you like to on your page. You'll be okay :-) 

Life has always been stressful but everyone has had the extra burden of the whole Covid situation to just add that cherry to the top of the cake. For many people here on FS their food issues are closely tied to mental health issues and they have to deal with both. Not easy for many. Some people just need a sounding board once in a while  

Being a parent is THE hardest job on this planet! Be proud you show up daily to keep trying! Some days are harder than others, but know that a part of God’s plan is for you to guide and love your minions! ♥️ 

teach them to do it, don't provide. they will appreciate better. 

Don't worry it's not just you my kids beat me down all the time lol