davidsprincess's Journal, 29 Mar 22

Hey Davidsprincess! - I hope you don’t disappear off the site. I haven’t taken time to read the comments yet; maybe you’ve addressed that. I always enjoy your posts and comments, and appreciate your comments on my posts. I’m not spending nearly as much time on FS this go around myself, but I appreciate having it available.  

You know you have all my support and appreciation. You must follow the path in front of you that is best for you. ❤️ And, it may be going a bit of a different direction tomorrow or the next day. Life is that winding road. You must take care of you and your family, Princess. However that looks. So many people here commented exactly how I feel. You are a tremendous accet to this community. May we somehow all grow a brain like Kenna and have her healthy relationship with food and movement. You are loved. ❤️❤️❤️ 

I wish you only happiness.... do you! Be happy and take a break!Some days I could care less but get up and go to the gym...something euphoric about walking 2 miles a day. My weight loss progress is very very slow but I can's count every single thing. Take are of yourself!!!!!!!! 

can't and won't count every single thing. Take care...Sorry about the misspellings!  

It does get overwhelming. Just to let you know much respect DP. Take care of yourself always take care of yourself first. 

I agree. Hubby and I always say "boy wouldn't it be nice to not have to worry about food every day worry about every meal making us fat or not". I might take your lead and join you in leaving. Love this community but at the end of the day we've got a full toolbox. For effs sake I have the calories in 18 cashews, an egg, 2 cups of fruit, all that bullshit memorized 🙈 

Hey, for what it's worth I think I might be the kind of person you're hoping exists. I joined FS a while back when the baby weight was stubborn after my second baby. I learned about calorie counting and was encouraged by many on here, including yourself. After I got to what I call my happy window (about a 10lbs range I feel is my most normal 'me' and where my favorite clothes all fit) I stopped logging calories and stopped being on here. That was several months ago and I just kinda lived after that, didn't weigh myself for months, didn't count calories. Recently I started to notice that my favorite clothes had gotten a bit tight again, so I decided to weigh myself and log again. I'll probably use FS for 2-3 months and use it to remind myself and my body what reasonable portions look like for me. All that to say, I think FS is a great tool, and it's awesome that there is community here too! but it is a tool, something for you to use, not something to take over your heart and thoughts. So I hope you have a great time turning it off for a bit (or forever). I also just want you to know, You Are Enough. No number or scale or body shape or size can change that. I'm sorry to hear you've had such a struggle with all of this, but know I've always been encouraged by your posts and dedication when I've been on here. And it has absolutely nothing to do with where your numbers were that day, but everything to do with the beautiful soul I can tell you are. I wish you well on your continued journey of health, wherever that journey takes you :) 

Knowledge is accumulative - Many FS members would hate losing your level of expertise on many of the topics that concern themselves. You will not forget what you know and have learned. I can understand the concept of not wanting to "live there anymore" - so don't - stand back for while and have a look at it. Doing that will make you stronger because you will never forget what you know. Personal strength is the objective since it is not all about just food or fat! You are empowered by what and who you know and as I stated - knowledge is accumulative and you will not forget what you know. That is all a part of who you are. I wish you the best in whatever your choice is ! 

DP, I hope you're able to find peace with yourself ❤ we'll miss you, but do what you need to do for you 💕 

Princess, I don't want you to leave but I get it. At least would you leave your account open and just check in for no other reason but to say Hi once a month. Or please DM me and we can exchange some contact info? I would love to keep in touch. I hate finding such good people out here and then losing them. To me its so much more than body image. But all the friends who have been here for me have really been a life line for the non-weight related struggles life has thrown at me. To me that's really the underlying issue anyway. The reason I stress eat. But the friendships are more important than anything. If you go dark. My heart will be sad and I will miss you. 

I've taken a couple of breaks from FS, and it's definitely for mental reasons. Pictures of food -- gigantic portions, desserts, candy & snack foods -- all just piss me off. I wish people would save the food photos in an album somewhere instead of posting them on this weight loss site. And then there's people who use FS as Facebook, never bothering to lose weight, but expecting a fan club of followers to high-five them for eating a pint of icecream. When all this makes me angry enough that I risk writing a response I know I'll regret, I take a long break. This site is a tool, after all, and it's supposed to help. If it's not helping you, Princess, absolutely find some other way to spend your time. We support you either way! 

DP I think you might just need a break. You seem to have a lot of ppl here who care about you. Don't toss those friendships away. Keep in touch with them through another source. You're 100% right about the food pictures. It's not good for you to keep seeing pictures of food if you want to refrain from eating. Sometimes when I come on this site I'm not hungry but I look at the pictures and then I become hungry and eat something. LOL. So I've learned to scroll past the food pictures quick unless I'm about to eat anyway. For the record, nobody is normal. So there's that... 

Take care! You will be missed! Wish you the best! 

although I feel the same because I'm under stress 😩 I won't go and neither should you please stay and stick with us together we can do it  

I stopped counting calories and it was great. Try it. 

If it's not serving your mental or physical health, it's a good idea to stop or at least take a break. I have mixed feelings about being on FS, because I do believe there are negative aspects to diet culture. I see people posting self talk and strategies that make me worry for their well-being. I really like to encourage people to focus on health rather than weight -- the two are not synonymous. Take care of your health, both mental and physical ❤ 

Sounds like you are giving up? Why? 

I turned off notifications a long time ago. I just scroll these days.  

You can also turn off notifications on posts you've commented on. That's what I do. The mermee's comment made me laugh. Just google it is bad advice, much like "do your own research" because there is so much rubbish out there, and sometimes it's made to seem believable. 

So new here DP but have enjoyed reading you and understand that feeling of needing to change things up a bit. Choosing change can be a catalyst, help to jumpstart our efforts , help keep us interested. I recently left a site because things had gotten stale, always the same few participating, no new ideas, perspectives etc. I came here and it's been like a window to fresh air was opened. I am trying to limit my time in here each day. That works best for me. Whatever you choose, I wish 🌟 you continued success with your goals. Keep it fun! 😊