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"Are you still doing this diet-thingy?"
One of the most dreaded remarks i get lately is the question if i am "still" dieting... I really dont know what to answer them...
First of all i do not see this as a diet thingy, i see this as the way it should be forever, and there is NO WAY i can ever stop this, or i will gain all the weight back sooner then i can spell Mississippi without using google!
Second of all since i am "still" doing this after two years, i can see in their eyes i must be doing something wrong because it takes me so long to loose all the weight. Without them saying anything i can hear them think, that they could have done it a lot faster and better then me if they where to get that fat in the first place, which ofcourse THEY would never come to that...
Third the condescending "thingy" well the Dutch equivalent of that anyhow... Means they do not take serious the effort i put in this, the hours and hours of training, the psychological wringer i went through, the millions of calories i did not eat, and the careful planning of the meals to get all needed nutritions in my body to keep it happy at all times...
Finally those same people ask me to go out to dinner, have a bite of the cake they baked, try some of this or that because surely i can afford to take just the one!!! They educate me about how life should be about living a good life and that you should enjoy life. How that is more important that a few kilo's.
Surely after two years of being my friend, they haven't figured it out yet? I cannot take just the one, because it is not in my macro's i cannot fit a lot of extra's in my scedule, being a woman, having to lose weight my diet don't stretch that far! I cannot halfway through the day change my plans and suddenly go out to dinner, i really can't... And the final straw is when they are trying to tell me WHAT to order in the restaurant so THEY know SOOOOOOO well what i need, right? Don't take the steak, take the veggie-meal... (*yeah right change the hard needed protein for pure carbs, that is wise, thank you for letting me know*)
so, my parents just left after having a large lunch here, and getting ready to go out for diner tonight... feel free to see what i ate, and PLEASE my BUDDIES, you surely would give me a small applause for fitting both lunch and diner into my macro's today!!!!
(* bow *)
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1760 kcal
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Fat: 54.82g | Prot: 110.46g | Carbs: 198.69g.
Breakfast: LU Bastogne, Twix Twix, Tomatoes, Calvé Pindakaas met Stukjes Noot, Coffee, Wasa Vezelrijk. Lunch: Tomatoes, Calorie Light, Gouda Cheese, Whole Wheat Bread, Calorie Light, Gouda Cheese, Whole Wheat Bread, Bananas, AH Ananas Vers, Witte Boterham, Zacht Gekookt Ei, Vers Geperst Sinaasappelsap. Dinner: Tomaten, Optimel Karamel Vla, AH Kogelbiefstuk. Snacks/Other: Natura Potassium Calcium Supplement, Nature Made Calcium, Glaceau Smartwater - Electrolyte Enhanced Water (33.8 oz). more...
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3235 kcal
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Exercise:
Conditioning exercise (health club) - 1 hour, Boxing - 45 minutes, Sleeping - 8 hours, Resting - 14 hours and 15 minutes. more...
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Maybe a good response would be to say, "I'm not dieting, I've learned to eat healthy and the weight loss is a bonus of eating well". Don't need to check your diary.
27 Apr 14 by member: ClassicRocker
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I left another food logging site because there were so many negative people about keto/low carb. They were to the point of being rude and nasty. I am convinced that if I just called it "IIFYM" and not keto or low carb then they wouldnt know the difference. Same thing with the general population. It's just how I eat.
27 Apr 14 by member: tiarew
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I absolutely agree with every word you said. Yes people judge everything you do----- Too fat, lose faster, have some cake with me ( I want some and don't want to feel guilty eating it in front of you----besides I am more comfortabel if we are alike), ---it won't hurt. A friend of mine had heart surgery 2-3 years ago and he still refuses cake, steaks, ice cream. It is not a temporary change if you want to live.
27 Apr 14 by member: dreamsinart
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I can't stand people like that. People always want to see others fail. I like this website because everyone is supportive of everyone else regardless of their approach.
27 Apr 14 by member: charles_27
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I haven't been on this journey long enough for people to start grilling me. So far, I'm pretty fortunate because, even though it is coming off "slow and steady," the few people I've shared my journey with ask lots of intelligent questions as if they wish they could commit to something as well. I feel your pain. I'll never understand why people undermine other people. I will admit, though, that years ago, when a friend was doing something called "The Prism" diet, I was 25% jealous and 75% sure that it was not a very sustainable way of eating and that the weight would probably come back on. It did, over many years. My friend really did change a number of things in her life as a result and I feel bad for doubting her.
27 Apr 14 by member: gilliansings
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I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. Unfortunately, charles is right. Some people just want to see others fail. But as one fs user said, we can only change ourselves. So take their negativity as a motivation to prove them wrong.
27 Apr 14 by member: ZivaDavid11
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Would be funny if you could say I see you stopped doing that thinking thing without offending!
27 Apr 14 by member: Kris AZ
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Way to go on your perseverance! I am so proud of you and that bow is well deserved!
27 Apr 14 by member: FitOKay
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You are at your lowest weight since you joined FS! You are doing wonderful! Kudos!
27 Apr 14 by member: Deb_N
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People will be people and nothing we can say or do will change that fact. In all my years meeting people trying to lose weight I have heard this story time after time it is well documented in the history of the over weight individual. If we were to really think about the comments in many cases they are not intended to be derogatory or hurtful but in fact well intentioned although ill founded. It is my belief that as we receive such comment or advice we should treat it in a manner that is polite but dismissive letting it pass over our heads with no harm done. Only the individual trying to lose the weight understands the problems and difficulties faced in doing so. Another point we should consider when rebuking the people making the comment is this. How would we react if they said to us say in a restaurant, "Oh you not ordering that are you, what, with your weight".
28 Apr 14 by member: Bwy39
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