Peeperjj it sounds like you are an empath...I know I am. If you are not familiar with what that is, just google empath and see if the characteristics fit your personality.
18 May 19 by member: shiny50
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@trackin, yes. Unfortunately I’m one who shared my experiences too much. I hope others realize I’m just trying to put it out there thinking it might help someone as others have helped me. Take it or leave it, no biggie. :) But I do need to stop doing it so much.
18 May 19 by member: peeperjj
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If you stop sharing, you stop helping
18 May 19 by member: rosio19
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But of course you do whatever you please 😊 just don’t leave 😉
18 May 19 by member: rosio19
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Shiny, yes I am lol. I don’t really believe it that stuff BUT there’s too much truth in it for me to disregard. I take on the mood of everyone around me. I’ll wake up in the morning out of sorts and not know why then go outside to find the kids arguing and fighting. I can’t hear them from my bedroom so it has to be the energy. Music also influences my emotions so I have to be careful there too. My middle is the same. Highly sensitive to what’s going on around her. Thankfully I’m on an anxiety medication that dulls it somewhat. One day when the kids are grown and I have more time I’d like to study it more.
18 May 19 by member: peeperjj
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Since I don’t have time to reply to each of you wonderful people :), I’ll just say for those who have missed it then count yourselves lucky. You don’t need to see it. As for leaving I won’t leave completely. For FB I’ve limited how much I’m on it and now basically just post things about the kids and reply to comments. Late at night a few days a week I’ll go through my feed and like or comment on family stuff but the first sign of anger or drama and I scroll on. I’m finding that it helps me tremendously and hadn’t realized how much of my anger was because of stuff like that. Back to the empathy thing because it doesn’t effect me but leaves me out of sorts. I’m kind of ashamed of myself because this post was partially meant to ‘shame’ those who are doing those things. Bring it to their attention as to how others view it (mean, childish, etc) and hopefully help them see that that is not the best side of themselves that they can be putting out there. I won’t apologize for it and I’ll forgive myself but it’s a character flaw I need to address in myself. Back to FS and leaving, I’ll just avoid certain people and posts for awhile and hope the ‘shaming’ works.
18 May 19 by member: peeperjj
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@mrsroboto, thanks! Lol when I reread that I had to chuckle. Some comments reminded me of the trolls that come on occasionally. I like trolls on my posts because I don’t believe what they say and I get a decent debate without hurt feelings or anything. Plus they are sad little creatures with nothing better to do than try to hurt people they think are less than themselves. Maybe something I say will get through and they’ll decide to join us and start their own journey and be better for knowing us. I’m a better person for knowing you all 😁
18 May 19 by member: peeperjj
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Ihhh pepper, stay around, me want to see the picture of the horses!!!! 🐎 I’ve seen and read what you are speaking if. Troubling indeed but we will all forget it in a couple dats, I hope! You are a woman with a big heart, for humans and animals. A cancer survivor! A fighter!! A great friend!! Hope you can cheer up momma!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
18 May 19 by member: wifey9707
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Peeperjj— relatively anonymous sites whether here or FB are like this. Use the site to meet your own needs and just leave the bantering to those who want to do it. It seems like it is causing you more angst than it may be worth.
18 May 19 by member: Kenna Morton
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My goodness, I should get the award for most typos in one post ever!!!😂😂😂😂😂
18 May 19 by member: wifey9707
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@birdee, totally agree! @gogo yes and thank you! @immort, I’m not letting it get to me. This morning I don’t give a crap lol. My coffee and I are one and I can leave the app anytime I want and not get tot he point of being worked up :).
18 May 19 by member: peeperjj
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don't get too uptight about it pieper JJ, people are people. some of those people always wear the type who had to keep repeating their point. that's their issue not yours. just ignore it and go on. I remember once that type of person bothered me so much that I didn't sleep well that night. And it wasn't guilt it was anger and anxiety. I learned to go to the Bible. God's word says not to dwell on those things. you're doing fine.
18 May 19 by member: lydium
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Bella, no reason to be sorry girl! You weren’t doing it to those other women. I don’t know if I could leave some of you for long lol. (If you haven’t noticed you are one I’ve been looking through more often than others 😉) @rosio, I comment to help mostly or encourage. If some of you hadn’t shared your experience then I’d still be at 1200 kcal, miserable and probably 100# and wanting to lose more. I know I wouldn’t be lifting like I am or have the same goals now! Even though I had to go down in the weights because my shoulder was killing me, my left scar was pulling and I remembered the surgeon saying to stop anything that pulls on it until I can see him in June and slowing down in legs this week after the horrible leg cramps lol. Now I know I can lift lighter and more reps at a slower pace and still do good for my body. Might not grow as fast but patience is a virtue I’m told and I need to learn it lol.
18 May 19 by member: peeperjj
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@lydium, let go and let God right? Long story but God and I are barely on speaking terms after my parents all passed within 4 years then cancer. He’s a strict Father and I’m the angry teenager right now lol. I’ll come back around but He will have to wait just as I do for my teenager to come around. I know He won’t leave me no matter how mad I am at Him just as I haven’t completely turned my back on Him. That probably seems odd coming from me because I’ve kearned to keep religion out of most things. My family and I don’t agree on most religious stuff. We have both extremes and I’m smack dab in the middle lol. Family gatherings are stressful when God is brought up and it’s tearing one family apart because mom and dad have opposing views, one kiddo is full atheist and happy to share her ‘wisdom’ and publicly advocating for all the crap going on right now for women’s ‘rights’ and another kid who is a peacemaker like me. But I don’t want to get into all that. Just saying it’s been hard and I’ll get there. I do have faith though.
18 May 19 by member: peeperjj
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@tom, the same here :). @kenna, yep. I’m doing my best to avoid the drama and it doesn’t effect me more than just wanting everyone to play nice :). That moment of frustration when you wanna spank the kids and finally give them a talking to, shake your head and walk away while hoping they make some realizations. @wifey I’ll get you those pics lol. It’s raining now and should until middle of the week but I’ll get them!
18 May 19 by member: peeperjj
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@becca, @LZ, I couldn’t leave you ladies either! Hope I responded to all. Now time to sit on the porch and have another cup of coffee and watch it rain. Then I can complain later about my allergies lol. BUT it’s so worth it as I love the rain even if it leaves me with a headache, stuffed up and scratchy throat lol. Good excuse to take a nap later :D. Thanks all for the positivity in these comments! Sure lightens a girls heart and makes me all warm and fuzzy inside 🥰.
18 May 19 by member: peeperjj
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Guess I missed all of it also. Grateful.
18 May 19 by member: jan-e333
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Man I missed it. I don’t like nasty either. All about being supportive and I thought it was going so well here. Love this group ❤️❤️
18 May 19 by member: jcmama777
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I’m glad you’re not leaving ❤️
18 May 19 by member: jcmama777
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Sorry everyone! Sorry peeper! Didn't mean to get everyone so uncomfortable. I find the passive aggressiveness on this site so strange. Rosio- I deleted the comments for 2 reasons- 1- she deleted hers and it looked like I was talking to myself- and 2 because it wasn't nice and it wasn't my business. I need to be able to recognize that prior to posting and I can admit that. Hopefully I will get better at it.- But Rosio- I've seen you intentionally stir the pot and try to get a response by commenting again and again and again on posts where others are trying to let it go. I guess what I find odd is the ongoing aggressiveness. Nobody moves on. I don't dislike or like anyone on this site because I don't know any of you- though I do quite enjoy reading other people's stories and their journeys. It is interesting to read. And so if I say something that makes someone think I don't like them- Don't think I am holding a grudge or even thinking about it anymore. If I like someone's picture or story- I comment. If someone is beautiful, I say it. Might it be the same person I argued with before- perhaps. Who cares? I am not easily offended and I think some things that I say- people think I'm saying to them but it's me and my opinion. I thought this was over a few days ago- so maybe (fingers crossed) I am missing stuff, too. I promise to follow the old saying "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it!" Or type it. I'm not going to come back and comment again. I don't need to have the last word. I truly am sorry if it got any of you upset. You all look great and if you don't- I would never say it. I would never say something about someone's body. At least I don't recall that. Have a good day! Beautiful weather here today! Planning to enjoy it more!
18 May 19 by member: davidsprincess
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