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BECOMING REAL - Repeat Journal but love it.
"When we stay in the painful moments without escaping via food, alcohol, work, money, drugs, etc., we question what we've never questioned: the "I" that we think we are. The "I" that is not our past, not our habits, not our obssessions. That's when ANYTHING is possible. Even living through extraordinary pain." ~ G. Roth. The journey is a gift. Be well my friends.
Becoming Real by Sarah Ban Breathnach
Once you are Real you can't become unreal again. It lasts for always. ~Margary Williams
On Christmas morning the bunny sitting on top of the Boy's stocking with a sprig of holly between his paws looked quite splendid. He was fat and bunchy in all the right places, with a soft, spotted white-and brown coat, thread whiskers, and ears lined with pink sateen. The boy was enchanted and played with the rabbit for two whole hours until the family directed his attention to all the other wonderful parcels lying under the tree "and in all the excitement of looking at all the new presents the Velveteen Rabbit [was] forgotten."
For a long time, the bunny remained just another play thing in the nursery. But he didn't mind because he was able to carry on long, philosopical discussions with the old Skin Hourse who was very old, wise, and experieced in the strange ways of nursery magic. One of the rabbit's favorite topics of conversation was on becoming "Real." (my favorite topic too) Here is the heart of Margery William's mystical tale of the transformative power of love, The Velveteen Rabbit, written in 1927.
The Skin Horse patiently explained to the bunny that "Real isn't how you are made. It's the thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real."
Becoming Real doesn't happen overnight to toys or people. "Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real, you can't be ugly except to people who don't understand."
In order for toys to become Real, they must be loved by a child. In order for us to become Real, we must become lovers of real life in all its complexity and uncertainty. Like the Velveteen Rabbit, we long to become Real, to know what authenticity feels like. Sometimes this hurts. The thought of losing our whiskers and having our tail come unsewn is frightening. In a world that judges by appearances, it's embarrassing having all the pink rubbed off your nose. The Velveteen Rabbit isn't alone in wishing to become Real without any uncomfortable or unpleasant things happening.
One of the ways that we become Real without too much discomfort is by growing gradually into our authenticity. As you learn to acknowledge, accept, and appreciate what it is that makes you different from all the other toys in the cupboard, the process begins. As you learn to trust the wisdom of your heart and make creative choices based on what you know is right for you, process becomes progress. As you learn to endow even the smallest moment of each day with Love, progress becomes reality perfected. Your black-button eyes might have lost their polish, but now these windows to the soul only see beauty. You become not only Real to those who know and love you, but Real to everyone. You become Authentic. TOWANDA!!!!!!!
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68.5 kg
Lost so far: 19.1 kg.
Still to go: 7.3 kg.
Diet followed: Reasonably Well.
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View Diet Calendar, 26 December 2010:
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596 kcal
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Fat: 19.31g | Prot: 45.44g | Carbs: 61.36g.
Breakfast: spiral ham. Lunch: spinach dip, baked potatoe, broccoli. Snacks/Other: coconut patty. more...
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steady weight
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