I’m so sorry to hear that you’re having to deal with that! You did what you could to tell him his comments are unwelcome, and as he still continues don’t waste anymore energy on him abt it. Do your best to ignore him and when he sees it doesn’t bother you anymore maybe he will stop or at least you’ll find the comments would be fewer and farther between.
I had to deal with it too when I was younger, my mom would make similar remarks to provoke me and when I stopped reacting to it she slowly stopped.
You are not worthless! You are brave for sharing your story first of all. So stay strong and focus on your goals, you got this! 😉
30 Nov 21 by member: Streetfighterdimples
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We all have different aesthetic value standards.
There are many beautiful fat people.
There are many skinny, beautiful people out there.
『Fat = Ugly 』← I don't think this is the right way to think about it.
And since the original purpose of aerobic exercise is to "strengthen cardiopulmonary function and improve exercise capacity," it is "not suitable for the purpose of burning fat alone.
Focusing on weight training is the right thing to do, in my opinion.
I don't have the right to interfere in family matters, but the only thing I can suggest is that you don't take it seriously when someone says something negative about you.
30 Nov 21 by member: ヤママユガ
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Morkbee. You are being abused by your father. I am unsure if it is possible , or what position you are in but can you maybe move out? I am so sorry he is doing this too you. I can't believe he sad you were ugly. I am so sorry he hurt you. It sounds like you have spoke to him about how you feel about these comments. I suggest to try tonsit him down and have a serious conversation with him about the names and abuse and how it is not appropriate and how it makes you feel. Be so proud of yourself hun on working on your self to better health! Weight training is so important to keep our bodies strong. Thanks so much for being brave to put this out their to this wonderful community. stay strong and try to keep your food and weigh loss as much as possible away from your father. Personal message me if you require more support or just a friend to vent more ok.
30 Nov 21 by member: happyjoycalm
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He sounds like a jerk. remember that hurt people hurt people. doesn't make his behavior ok, but easier to understand it's not about you. it's about him and his broken thoughts.
take care of yourself.
30 Nov 21 by member: NewSarah!
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I'm so sorry you have to put up with that. he sounds exactly like my mom. dont listen to him. its not true. appreciate you sharing what you're going through.
30 Nov 21 by member: thinnag
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What he says about you, he feels about himself on the inside! So look at him when he says
the next jerk thing, ask him if he really wants to own that or just project it! Your turn to make him think!
30 Nov 21 by member: Thinout Thestuffin
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The one who tells u r ugly is ugly themselves. People always talk about themselves. And sometimes for some people it's easier to downgrade other people in order to grow their self-esteem or whatever they really lack. Be strong! U r unique as every person is🐇🐇🐇💐
30 Nov 21 by member: kattboily
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the correct response is Fk off. :)
30 Nov 21 by member: swooptaylor
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I'd tell him to go (insert f word here) himself. Seriously, if you're building muscle he's probably scared he's going to lose his control and is acting out this way to try to retain it.
30 Nov 21 by member: GuiseppeCarboner
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He’s your Dad! So unless your relationship really sucks otherwise, you probably don’t want to be too aggressive. But I don’t think it’s wrong to calmly say something like, “I hope making that remark makes you feel better because it doesn’t make me feel any better.” He might respond with some like, “I was just trying to help.” Your response, “Well, it doesn’t help; in fact it embarrasses me and I resent it.
If he says these things to you in front of other people, then that’s exactly where you need to respond. A little embarrassment going the *other* way can be very effective. (Voice of experience.)
30 Nov 21 by member: grammalaura
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you lost 18lb that's awesome don't stress with the comments they are jealous!
01 Dec 21 by member: afournierlavoie
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family is shit like that, especially when they don't understand calories like that cookie= 2 eggs. keep up the work, ignore family, they're usually the most disrespectful
01 Dec 21 by member: ¥arrow
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This is a sad parental truth. It has gone on for years, where those who truly (I hope) love us make hurtful comments or judgements on our health choices, even when we are being mindful of what we eat. Not cool, but hey my dad smoked in the car for 15 years of my young life, though he did enforce seatbelts long before it was law. Cheers all. 😀
01 Dec 21 by member: DarkKnight73
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so sorry to read this love. Know that all your support is on this site and let it all out when ever you feel the need. As for your dad I am not impressed .
01 Dec 21 by member: belladen10
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You are doing a great effort dear and this is the most important thing
Good luck!
01 Dec 21 by member: aybikamom
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You are definitely not worthless! I almost wonder if he is jealous of you choices to be healthier or is afraid that with you making these choices is going to leave him behind? (What is your father's current health like?) Maybe you could offer to have him join you as a workout buddy and that both of you could get healthier together? It's no doubt that what he says to you is absolutely horrible, make the offer to him (maybe even make it a competition *if he's a competitive kinda person*) he might even agree to it? but if he refuses... you don't need his lack of support to bring you down you have all of us here to support you in your journey and maybe even use his negativity and inspiration to prove you are better than he says!! YOU'VE GOT THIS!!
01 Dec 21 by member: Lilyajade
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Never give up! You do it for yourself only!! Don’t listen the bad comments. You are strong and you are not worthless!!! One day at the time! Go girl
01 Dec 21 by member: MCH48
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Tell that fucker too shut up
01 Dec 21 by member: NoahMac
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Hey keep doing you don’t listen to other people even if they’re family. Sorry but sounds like your dad got some personal issues don’t let that fuck you up
02 Dec 21 by member: CoreyDNolan
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omg don't listen to him he's not worthy of you paying so much attention to and making you feel insecure about yourself you're beautiful the way you are
02 Dec 21 by member: haruka+
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