jcmama777's Journal, 19 Jul 19

I wondered why she went private; I missed that drama. That's too bad because one of the features I like about FS is being able to share and get feedback. I think we all need support and encouragement so maybe she'll open back up when her feelings heal. Again, I don't know what happened but well done you on apologizing if you feel responsible. 

I was so extra and it didn’t belong on that particular thread of hers. I’m a grown woman and no when to apologize. I feel like if you’re going to keep disappearing Friday thru Monday and have the same old post Monday morning you should be open to comments if you continue to post the drama. However, my comment absolutely didn’t really belong on that particular post. She is definitely owed an apology for that. But I also have been very good at just scrolling by. I’m glad her settings are changed. I think I really went off because I knew the moment I said something she was going to call me a troll.... instead of seeing how supportive I was the first few months. Well she did call me a troll and after that my filter went out the window. Like I said though I was wrong.  

Know 

I was wondering why I quit seeing her posts.  

It didn't belong in that thread but it belonged on every single one prior to it... So who gives a shit? Unless you are completely supporting the overeating and non stop alcohol to the point of blacking out with strangers...then you are being mean in her eyes. FS suggests members to follow and you read her profile and she's gorgeous and half her previous size so you're like...oh...she'll be inspirational. Took about 2 weeks to unfollow. Got called a troll. Everyone got in an uproar because somehow there are still a couple people who don't mind her same journal on repeat and the attention seeking. It's one thing for ups and downs and to tell people you're trying and appreciate their advice...but entirely something else when you attack people who clearly care and are trying to help. So yeah after a few...you'll meet the right guy soon and telling her how pretty she was...I was like...nope...this is not the friend for me. 

Doubt it was you. Reality has a way of curing people.  

What you said could have been worded better, but your assessment was accurate.  

Oh my gosh thank you guys. I have felt so guilty. An apology was owed for that post but had it have been on her others. I would not feel bad.  

You did nothing wrong. Actually she didn't not appreciated anybody's advices. She really needs help but she doesn't want to admit it, we have to let her be, I guess. 🤷‍♀️ 

@Bella...I think her settings is to followers only. So if you would like to see her posts- you can request to follow. For me...I am so over FS drama. At the end of the day, we have our real lives outside of the computer screen - at least, I hope. My advice to @JC...I admire your accountability, you are trying to get healthy, lose weight yourself, get back in the swing of things. finish school, amongst other things - I really wouldn't get as invested. I personally think when people first here criticism, it can be a hard pill to swallow. Sometimes, they need time for it to sink in. I personally feel she is doing better. Honesty doesn't always have to be negative. But, yes, there are times when it's warranted - like the first time. 

When I was younger and did my weekend abuse of alcohol, it was because I was hanging around the wrong people. She isn't listening to FS cause she was listening to them. You see. But, I think FS voices are becoming stronger. I had to cut those people off - all of them. The one's who make you feel pressured to do the things you really don't really like to do. That involved learning to enjoy my own company until I made new friends - it was fun rediscovering myself. But, that realization didn't happen over night. And, I didn't just wake up and stop completely. 4 weekends became 3 than 2 than none with being around the same type of people.  

To be honest, it felt good to read your posts. I think you wrote what a lot had been thinking. Maybe a little harsh ~ outta frustration?? No worries! 

DP, Terrapin, Court, Keilin Jnn876. I appreciate your comments. I was wondering if I actually was a mean person. I feel the same way after some point you have to stop coddling or not respond. DP 💯 I followed her right off the bat!! I showed my friends her before and after and was like goals!! If she can do it so can I. But yes her posts become more and more about guys and wanting to be told she is beautiful. I got serious on her when she was posting about getting black out drunk with strangers. I unfollowed Hera few months ago. That’s frustrating because I have to legit search out my people, but her constantly posting Monday-Thursday night... Friday morning was always showing up.  

Jnn8876 

At the end of the day, everybody’s got something and we can’t sweat the small stuff! Let’s just focus on helping each other out and remember why we’re here😊! Unfortunately, some people are their own worst enemy and when they continue to do the same thing over and over again we’ll...Just saying🤷‍♀️. Have a great weekend everybody and stay cool!!!!🍹 

Babayjo thank you.  

@JC love...you are definitely not a mean person! I think the issue is opposite...you may care way too much. That happens to big hearted people sometimes <3. Now that you got this out your system and dealt with it....let's move on.... 

Jnn8876 join the club. 🤣 It was quite entertaining though. I cannot lie. Have a good weekend everyone. My phone autocorrected good to food. Maybe it's a mind reader and it was a Freudian slip. Let's hope not. ❤️💕 

Spencershae thank you. I actually work tomorrow but off Sunday. I hear you. I got steak seasoned tonight and I’m totally going swimming for exercise and it’s so peaceful. It also helps with my joint information. Court, DP thank you❤️ I’m thankful to have come across as someone who may care too much than a nasty person. Court 💯 I do have a lot of other things to focus on at the end of the day.  

Dananna I meant to include you❤️