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I have been reading, reading, reading, hoping to understand how to have the best life possible. One item that has me thinking is this: willpower is a finite commodity. If you use up some resisting a donut in the morning, then you will have less willpower to resist a candy bar in the afternoon. And every choice that you have to make, food or money or where to spend your time, all dig into your daily willpower allotment.
So, it is making sense to me that all the things I have to choose about, adjust, review, consider, all of those are taking away my will! No wonder I am overwhelmed some days.
Recently I made the decision to get my house taken care of - put it in my name even though I have til December, and then let it roll on - you know, "set it and forget it" where the bank automatically pays itself out of my account. I'll even get a discount for doing that. One thing down. Also, my health insurance is messed up, but I can wait until the actual day of the divorce to fix that up and it isn't costing me anything to leave it the way it is for the next 100 days or so.
As for food, I am not going to weigh myself again until I get a new scale - I am going to look for the model recommended by Info and go from there. I know I have been eating less - it has to be showing up somewhere!
My daughter is off to Orientation for college and will be back tomorrow. I am going to treat myself to dinner out and a new air conditioner before I head off to work.
(Sad how background noise can cause stress too - there is a backhoe diggning down the street, still going and started early this morning - the engine whining is not what I need to hear right now! It's 80 degrees and humid and the noise is so annoying!)
thank you for your comments yesterday, buddies! I do think I let myself get overwrought for not good reason - this time next year I will probably not remember why I was so upset!
Hope you are having a good day! Stay comfortable whereever you are!
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You are so right..this time next year you will be having a whole new wonderful life but for now step by step you will begin to cross things off your to do list. Yes will power takes a lot out of us but it is a great feeling when we finally realize just how strong we are and how much we can accomplish. You will see Abba! Don't push yourself too hard, take sometime for yourself everyday no matter what tasks you have. It is important to take care of your inner self too. Great that you're getting a new scale. Be sure to tell me how you like it. Take care and hope you have a great night.
19 Jul 10 by member: chattycathy1955
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Yes! I have read that too about the willpower. Makes so much sense. Explains why when I'm focusing on eating well and exercising, everything else falls apart. It's not just that I'm a spaz. It's totally normal. Yay. I love finding things out like that. Don't worry about getting overwrought. Overwrought is my middle name. ENjoy the new AC!
19 Jul 10 by member: beets_yum
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You are taking great steps in getting things in order. Don't let yourself get overwhelmed. Remember it won't always be like this.
At some point you can relax and put your feet up and say "it's all good" The will power thing is it a skill or a state of mind?
19 Jul 10 by member: Worth the weight
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I am hoping you find what works for you. I am glad you are making great choices that bring you peace of mind. It is so important and I am proud of you for making it a priority! Way to go!!!
20 Jul 10 by member: dawn0001
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abba: It's a good scale, I think you should go with it right away and not put the weighing-in off too far off into the future. I agree that willpower is a finite resource, but I believe that it can be made to expand to cover all essential needs while one is young and strong. There may be certain situations of extreme stress where willpower will no doubt be seriously affected, at least temporarily. I appreciate the clarity of your post.
20 Jul 10 by member: information
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Hope the reading is bringing you strength and wisdom. It's seems that there are many lessons in what you are learning and you have a good handle on it. This life we have, is all we have. No dress rehearsals, this is it. You are well on your way to this new beginning and chapter. My daughter is leaving in a few weeks as well, so it's bittersweet. She's the last one to go. It's strange, a bit sad, but very rewarding to know we raised her to be independent. Have a good one buddy!
22 Jul 10 by member: RedGoddess
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