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Do you ever have a difficult time expressing feelings to a friend and hope by communicating with them that they would understand? The following was emailed to a friend and I am nervous because I have not heard back from her in more than 2 days which is unlike her. She needed us to make up our mind by the end of October so she could make reservations for a house on Kona but I felt I needed to communicate with her my true feelings about going.
"I must communicate with you. During our last gathering you told me Joanie (another friend who may go), is not really in sync with liking Brian's (my husband) personality traits which is making it very hard for me, with this knowledge, to feel comfortable in pushing the Hawaiin vacation. I believe in harmony especially in such big undertakings and I want all to be comfortable with each other. ( I have not told Brian, as I didn't want to hurt his feelings or anyone else). I do appreciate your candor even though it is a bit unsettling for me now.
Without knowing our friends Bruce and Laura and since we are having a terrible time making up our minds about this trip , time is ticking away at an incredible rate. My thoughts are it is probably best find other friends for this particular holiday. With love and concern, sincerely yours, Lisa
Sometimes it is hard to voice your feelings and this is one of those times. Wish me luck. My husband sometimes rubs people the wrong way because he expresses his thoughts even when one may not want to hear it or is on the opposing end, but not in an abnoxious way. We all have our personality quirks it just didn't feel great knowing someone was hypercritical of my husband. Thanks for listening. TOWANDA!!!
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Lost so far: 17.2 kg.
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Diet followed: Reasonably Well.
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1279 kcal
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Fat: 64.75g | Prot: 56.13g | Carbs: 120.55g.
Breakfast: california rolls. Lunch: California Rolls. Dinner: tuna, cottage cheese. Snacks/Other: pecans, fondant. more...
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I'm a natural writer (if there is such a thing) so I totally find email best for difficult subjects as it helps me organize my thoughts. I wouldn't worry too much if you haven't heard back in two days - sometimes people need time to think or simply haven't checked their email yet. Give it a few more days and follow up if you feel comfortable.
18 Oct 10 by member: suechru
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I would have done the same thing, Lisa. If she is truly a friend, she will realize that you were merely being open and honest, and will take your note in the spirit in which it was intended! If it came dpwn to my friends of my hubby, I have to say that I am with you, hubby wins, hands down!!
18 Oct 10 by member: ctlss
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In my opinion it is definitely best to be right out there with how you are feeling especially about something like this. Your friend should not be angry with you for feeling like this when in fact she is the one who told you how the other friend felt. I would not one to go somewhere with someone who had those feelings regarding one of my loved ones. I think you did the right thing and she should understand and if she doesn't it is her problem not yours Lisa.
19 Oct 10 by member: chattycathy1955
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Much appreciation for your thoughts as they mean a lot to me. I was second guessing myself as to how I handled this one:) The one thing I know is that I felt better after I wrote to her. Just became anxious after I haven't heard back. Being open and honest isn't always easy but since this would have been our first big trip away from the states I knew it had to be comfortable for all parties concerned. TOWANDA!!!!
19 Oct 10 by member: Lisa Online
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