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I just wanted to vent a little because there’s no where else I can say it.
Today, after I ate a cookie, my dad repeatedly told me that I have to go workout now to “burn the cookie off”. And he always makes comments like this even in public. If I have a slice of birthday cake he’ll tell people “now she won’t eat for the next week to make up for it” or “now she’ll exercise so much”. And I have told him that this is not true.
I work out to grow muscle. I lift weights and I don’t really do cardio. I also don’t restrict myself after a treat or even a binge. And i’ve told him that, and asked him to stop making these comments- especially in front of other people. It makes me seem like I have an eating disorder and makes me feel less proud of my weight loss. He continues nonetheless.
Anyway, after telling me to go workout because I ate the cookie, he proceeds to tell me how FAT and UGLY I am. He’s just mean and I know that. But it still brings me back to my years in school. It reminded me of all the people who would make comments about my weight and called me names. I can’t escape it.
Feeling: worthless and unmotivated
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Remind him that you will be the one choosing his nursing home in the future. Nip his behaviour in the bud right now. 👍
02 Dec 21 by member: linda01101958
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You have lost 18 pound since you started 8 months ago which is over 2lbs per month if I'm correct. I think your are doing great and keep it up. There will be ups and downs but this is normal.
02 Dec 21 by member: green mangoe
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separate yourself from unhealthy and destructive people😥
02 Dec 21 by member: Borgi123
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Don't ask him to stop, tell him to stop. I do not know if you are an adult, or if you reside in the same household but if you are able to separate yourself from this environment then do so as soon as possible. Your father is abusing you and that needs to stop. You have every right to be angry at him. His behaviour is unacceptable and if you can without fighting let him know that there are boundaries and you will not accept this behaviour any longer. I so not know him but many people believe in the tough guy approach because they think it is useful in pushing people to their goals perhaps he is someone who thinks like that but it isn't the right approach. If this doesn't work and he refuses to change, I would suggest you separate yourself from anyone who treats you like this. You deserve to be respected and loved regardless of your outer appearance and this includes yourself, love and appreciate who you are regardless of what others may say to you. When you love who you are then what others say hurtful things you will be strong enough to not accept their opinion because you will know it doesn't matter.
03 Dec 21 by member: iamsuzieque
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Anytime a parent makes you feel this way it is because they are projecting their own failures. If you really want to change him then ignore him. When he speaks to you just walk away. Do not respond at all. Show no emotion. In doing so you will take all his power away and leave him confused as to why he can't affect you. Over time he will do 1 of 2 things...he will either wake up and try to build a relationship or he will die old, confused, and alone. Either way, you will be free, full of the power inside you, and ready to help the people who truly love you.
05 Dec 21 by member: Andrew Olson
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you are the complete opposite of worthless. you are so important to so many people! don’t listen to the haters!
05 Dec 21 by member: Sophia11223
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What century is he living in!!!!!!!
10 Dec 21 by member: newsletter2022
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